The subconscious mind is the seat of the emotions. It responds to programming, by authority figures (your mother or father) and especially if there is emotion involved you can program it yourself, inadvertently. This frequently happens with a woman's first sex experience. The purpose of this sex therapy information page is to help disconnect you from early guilt you accepted from others or laid on yourself. A normal woman will have intense orgasms, more than one unless her partner is too quick or clumsy, but several by finger manipulation of the clitoris and/or oral sex. If you feel that somehow you aren't functioning as you should, this automated sex therapy may be helpful.

If you do not respond well to self physical stimulation and you are not beyond the menopause, chances are that guilt lies somewhere in your subconscious. If you are beyond menopause there can be the added problem of possible hormonal need. Some women think it's all over when they pass 50. Not so. My oldest partner is 71 and she functions well when the hormones are right. See your doctor about this.

The best written info on the use of nutritional and other products to enhance sexual enjoyment that I know of is found at Smart Publications.

The sex therapy message below that I've recorded is to help disconnect old guilt, as I assume you would rather be in control of your own emotions with the understanding you have today. This as opposed to the understanding you had at the time of your first sexual experiences.

The subconscious is a NON-reasoning mind, at least as we normally look at reasoning ability. It responds to commands that you let get through to it, usually. I say usually because the internal opposition can sometimes be very strong and it takes repeated attempts to get the programming changed.

My role is to offer suggestion (a command) to your subconscious to disconnect you from guilt. Another person could do it as well if he did it properly, using a clap of the hands or snap of the fingers instead of the click on the mike or sound of a buzzer which I will use.

YOU MUST HAVE A SOUND CARD IN YOUR COMPUTER TO USE THIS AUDIO MESSAGE! You do not have to download a player for the first one, and being on dial-up is no problem. The second one you should have a fast connection as it will take time to load.

Don't expect this message of DISCONNECT! to make sense to your rational (conscious) mind. Just try it, and be relaxed as evidenced by your free salivation before you listen. Don't start the message until you can create a lot of saliva in your mouth. Close your eyes if you wish, if it helps you go back to the suspected guilt. If you can FEEL the unpleasant emotion, you've made contact with an important source of your problem and that helps. You will NOT go into a trance and if you are a meditator do NOT go into meditation mode. Just be normal, relaxed, and listen. I apologize for the sound quality. It may sound better with earphones.

Make sure this page has been open for a minute or so. First access takes longest. After that it plays from your temp file and comes right up.

My only pay is knowing I've helped some of you. If things go better, let me know, please. I have a page on sex techniques for men your partner should read.

If you had a childhood upsetting sex experience, go back in your memory and bring up the emotions accompanying it and immediately play the message below. After the message is finished, you should no longer have those upsetting feelings and hopefully you will function better.

Click the play button to listen to a message to disconnect you emotionally from an early molestation or rape.

I have written a special page for women who climax with manipulation of the clitoris but cannot reach orgasm with the man inside. A well-functioning woman will have her first (of several) orgasms within 30 seconds of the man going in. That assumes some foreplay. Unfortunately, not many women function that well. When a woman's orgasms are intense, she will usually squeal, moan, have trouble getting her breath and some buck so much it can be hard for the man to stay on top. A few have orgasms so intense they cry. These behaviors are a goal to be sought, and the key is mind programming. You should at least get to the multiple orgasm stage, with a pause of a minute or so between orgasms, and have 2 or 3 at least. Many men, even older ones, are very quick to climax. Extensive foreplay up to being on the verge of climax is then essential.

Below the sound file I will give you some other alternatives.

For additional information on women's sexual problems, click here

Everyone deserves a decent sex life, and if repeated playing of these messages doesn't do the job for you, your best alternative is to see a hypnotist. A LOT of women hypnotists are out there, some good, some not so good. Many have phony PhDs after their names. Baloney. There is no really good accreditation for hypnotists, and skills vary widely. If you go to a hypnotist, don't jump to the conclusion you weren't hypnotized. There is no sensation to it and you will ALWAYS hear everything. It's what happens afterwards, at home, that counts. I have personal experience (with myself) on that issue.

Another alternative and less expensive is EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. Read about it at http://www.emofree.com. This is really a self-hypnosis or auto-suggestion thing. It's certainly very effective when you can FEEL an old upsetting emotion of any kind, like from molestation or rape.

Loren Parks,
Psychological Research Foundation, Inc.

NOTE: The author of this page is not a state or medically-licensed professional.

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Last Updated April 15, 2006
April, 2006